Simple Spicy Stir Fry

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SIMPLE SPICY STIR FRY

Step One: Find some vegetables. Whatever you have in your fridge will do.

Step Two: Find some kind of hot spices. Whatever you have on hand in your cupboards will do.

Step Three: Pour a small amount of oil (I use sesame oil for stir fries, but you can use whatever you please) into a pan, then add your spices directly to the oil and allow to simmer. (Seriously, just a little bit of oil is all you need.)

Step Four: If using onion or garlic as an ingredient, add into spiced oil and simmer.

Step Five: Chop veggies, then dump them into the pan. Sauté veggies. Add another Tbsp of oil if pan gets too dry, otherwise just let them be. You’re going for ‘crisp’, not soggy.

Step Six: Somewhere between Step One and Step Four you should throw some rice into a cooker, so it’s simmering while all this pan-fry business is going on.

Step Seven: Grab a cold drink from the refrigerator. Take a swig.

Step Eight: When rice is done, dump it onto a plate and pour the stir-fried veggies over the top.

Step Nine: Eat.

NOTES

The photo at the top is what I ate for dinner last night. I have been a vegetarian for nearly 10 years, but in late 2018 I changed my diet to once again include seafood (mainly fish, but sometimes shrimp) due to some health concerns. Thus, the shrimps you see in the pic. If you are a Veggie, make your stir-fry without the shrimps. If you are a carnivore, choose whatever meat you want and add it to the pan.

For my stir fry, I used: 1/4 tsp chili flakes, 1/4 tsp cumin, mushrooms, broccoli, red and green bell peppers, and 1 Tbsp of minced onion.

It took twelve minutes from start to finish to prep and cook, and about another eight minutes to eat.

Fast. Simple. Healthy. Easy.

YUM.

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Perspective

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photo of woman on bed with long hair hanging over the side, shot from an underside perspective

Try looking at something familiar – whether concrete or abstract – from a different perspective.

It’s fascinating what you’ll see.

Sinful Sunday

F/m Radio: Encore Hour

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F/m-Style D/s Music

I am a fan of music. In a general way, in that I generally appreciate the creative and pitch-perfect talents of others (both vocal and instrumental). But also in specific-to-my-life ways, in that I tend to have – depending on my mood and the focus of my interest{s} at the time – tunes that ‘speak’ to me. Whether it’s because of the lyrics, the instrumentation, the style/genre, or the ‘message’ the music sends through a combination of all those things, there are things I hear that make me go, “…Oh. I like that!”

I have found over the years that certain musical compositions ‘speak to me’ in clearer voices (pun intended) than others. Below is a list of songs that – in my interpretation (key word: my) – fit with my overall… I dunno… Style(?), I guess. They will each, of course, be heard by different individuals in different ways. My way of listening to each of these selections is decidedly F/m in nature. I will try to briefly outline below the reason{s} why. 🙂

Song titles are linked to their respective YouTube videos. If you prefer to skip the explanations: the full playlist is at the end of the post. To listen to it as one stream, please scroll to the bottom of the page.

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Take Me To Church

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Do you know that song? Take Me To Church, by Hozier?

If not, then fair warning: The song – and this post pertaining to the song – addresses persecutionist religious behavior, in particular where sex/uality is concerned.

The opening lyrics go:

My lover’s got humor
She’s the giggle at a funeral
Knows everybody’s disapproval
I should’ve worshiped her sooner
If the Heavens ever did speak
She is the last true mouthpiece
Every Sunday’s getting more bleak
A fresh poison each week
“We were born sick”, you heard them say it
My church offers no absolutes
She tells me, “Worship in the bedroom”
The only Heaven I’ll be sent to
Is when I’m alone with you
I was born sick, but I love it
Command me to be well
Amen, Amen, Amen

It’s a song whose lyrics I have long (well, not *that* long — it only came out in 2013) had a mixed response to; on one hand, it’s a left-hook jab-punch at the glass jaw of The Church (capitalization is intentional), yet on the other hand it doesn’t do a great job of lifting up the “born-sick” sexy-ness that can be found in a power-exchange relationship. So it’s like the song swings but… misses(?)… maybe. Or maybe just doesn’t do the full TKO. Because it goes from that promising beginning –

the introduction of a man’s adoration of unconventional woman who tells him not to worry about the judgments being passed during Sunday morning services and instead to “worship in the bedroom”

– to something… I dunno… Not quite right?

Because the chorus – which is repeated several times throughout the song – then goes to this:

Take me to church
I’ll worship like a dog at the shrine of your lies
I’ll tell you my sins and you can sharpen your knife
Offer me that deathless death
Good God, let me give you my life

Which… WTF?

Because while I have no idea what “worship like a dog” means, exactly, it certainly doesn’t sound flattering. And why is this non-deity ‘worship’ of a flesh-and-blood woman something that’s being equated to… Well, he’s calling her bits a shrine of lies, yes?

Which just irritates me, right? It makes me think: Like there isn’t enough daugher-of-Eve misogyny propagated through the church you’re supposedly so frustrated with? Now you’re being insulting about this lover-with-humour that you were enamored of in the first verse?

Yeah, nope. Not cool.

And so for me, really – again: for me – it just kinda always ended there. Because, WTF?

But I’m fully capable of changing channels when there’s something on that doesn’t suit, so when it was popular on the radio I always did so and then it stopped getting so much air play and I just kind of forgot about it. It was one of those random pieces of music that sort of got popular for a while – particularly, for some reason, among the young BDSM-ers in the early twenty-teens – and then I didn’t hear the song for a long long time.

But time is a thing, right? It affects us.

And it had been several years since I’d last thought about this song.

So when I listened again – recently, intentionally – I realized (because, time) it was with slightly altered ears. And when I did, I realized…

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