A Randomocity of Curiosity

Before embarking on my Celebrations! blogging project, I was lucky enough to get some feedback from a few of the people who read here regularly. And throughout this season of celebrating YOU (yes, YOU!), dear reader, I’ve received – in addition – a few notes from folks who sent me — surprisingly enough! — missives containing questions that can only be described as…

A hodge podge.

: laugh :

So while I took the majority of the ‘categorizable’ curiosities and put them into two posts (one from my husband’s point of view and one about navigating the tough stuff in our marital relationship), I saved the rest for a bit of pre-Christmas… I dunno… frippery, I guess.

*smile*

And so: Randomness, here we go:

Will there be socks?

Hahaha! Yes, the socks are yet to come. 😉 Stay tuned. Meanwhile, feel free to enjoy a hatted bit of haberdashery. 😛

What did your first blog look like?

Well, my first blog was a very basic template on an adult site. The content was similar to when I first started my blog on WordPress, and all of that content was moved to this url when I set up house as an independent (with the help of Michael Knight — thank you!) in 2016. What it has ‘looked like’ along the way is pretty much… What it looks like now? I think? *laugh* I don’t like futzing about with things once I’ve got them set the way I like them, so…

Yeah.

It looked – and still looks – like this. 🙂

How has sex blogging bettered/changed/improved your life?

Uhmmm…

I don’t know that it has, really.

Blogging about what happens in my life — and recognizing myself as a sexual being in doing so — is a positive thing, I think. In a self-care/share-truth kind of way. And um… I’ve met people via blogging that I probably would have never met otherwise. (And have done sexy things with some of those people.)

However, I don’t… See, I don’t think I can say this, really, without someone taking it the wrong way or having their feelings hurt or whatever… But I don’t think that anything about this facet of my personal expression has bettered me. Or improved my life in any particular way.

Again: I know there are people who will take that statement as a personal affront, and who might be hurt by that. That’s not my intention, but…

But I don’t really think in those terms with *anything* — it all just IS. Life is like that. All facets of life are like that. They just are. Sometimes they’re easy; mostly they’re hard. I mean, it’s all… It’s not a good thing or a bad thing… It’s just a thing. You do it. (And if you’re me, you do the best you can at it.) And you just take it as it comes.

I enjoy blogging. Very much.

I just don’t see it as a self-improvement exercise.

*smile*

If that makes sense.

What are your favorite sex toys?

I’m not really having sex these days, not even with myself.

[ . . . ]

So I’m not sure how to answer that, really.

I have a vibrator that… Well, I like it when I remember to use it. And I’m kind of re-learning how to use it.

I used to really like my Icicle.

And of course, there’s my absolute favorite toy… 😉

What music do you listen to? Do you have ‘fall back’ tunes for setting a mood? Have your tastes changed over the years?

I’m pretty sure these questions stem – at least in part – from my September Song Project. 🙂

I listen to whatever suits my mood. This time of year I have Christmas playlists that keep my spirits up. When I want to… I dunno, reinforce(?)… an F/m state of mind, or remind myself of the relationship drivers that really move me, I have go-to tunes for that. Generally speaking, I probably gravitate to classic rock more than any other genre. Though I’m a pretty big fan of piano music (I am a pianist but I am currently without instrument – *sad face*), and have been to see George Winston and Jim Brickman in the past year.

Do you dance?

Well, I *twirl* more than anything.

: laugh :

But yes.

Dancing is a thing for me. 🙂

I’m crap at following (which surprises NO ONE), so I’m not all that great at partner dancing. Unless it’s with my husband. Because he knows I just want to groove and shimmy and twirl and so he holds my hand(s) and rolls with it. 🙂

(I do actually know a few ballroom moves: I can cowboy waltz backward and do a basic cha-cha; the Charleston is a blast, but it wears me out!)

You seem fit. Do you work out?

This question made me laugh.

I do *NOT* work out. (At least not in the ways that people generally imagine when they hear the term ‘workout’.) Going to a gym…

[ . . . shudder . . . ]

I am muscular, and have always been athletically inclined. I tend toward outdoor activities like hiking and canoeing, and when the weather (and my schedule) permits, I’m a fan of playing court sports.

It’s just…

Upfgh.

‘Workout’ makes it into work, y’know?

And I don’t think exercise should be work. It should be fun. 🙂

(Except gardening. Gardening/yardwork is NOT fun but it is necessary and it’s one helluva workout. And it’s a helluva lotta WORK.)

Have you ever had a threesome?

Yes.

Have you ever given a golden shower?

That depends on how you define it. 😉

I’ve played around with watersports, but I’ve not written explicitly about it here in this space. Perhaps one day I shall. 🙂

What do you think of the upturn in “sissy” blogs?

Uhmmm…

If there is an upturn…

I don’t think of it at all, actually.

: laugh :

But everyone’s got their kinks, right? I mean, there is an ass for every seat.

Do you have any regrets?

Not really. I don’t see the point in regretting my choices in life. They were MY choices.

And while I can’t say I’ve never done anything that’s… less than stellar… in terms of those choices: No matter what I’ve done (or not done), it’s been what has been right for me at the time. So there’s no point in regretting any of it. When the not-so-positive choices are made, I own them. And I learn from them.

And I move on.

What could male doms learn from female doms?

I’ve actually had a few questions along this general tack – a few of them more specific or nuanced – but it kinda all boils down to this generalization, and I only have one answer.

You can learn absolutely anything you put your mind to.

So when you figure out what, specifically, it is that you *want* to learn… And you figure out who, specifically, you’d like to learn from…

Go for it.

Otherwise, this is kind of like a horse asking a llama for pointers on improving its trot.

The two may occasionally cross paths in the same pasture, but they are totally different animals.

Has your idea of gratitude or tolerance/goodwill-toward-men changed over the years?

Gratitude, yes.

I saw something on a T-shirt near Thanksgiving time that said “Gratitude is the attitude that what you have is enough.”

And…

That’s a good start, I guess.

But I think that’s a really… I dunno, consumerist(?)… viewpoint.

I think it’s more – for me, anyway – a matter of recognizing your talents, and using them to give back. It’s less about what you have — I mean, being thankful for what you have is important; too many people take too many things for granted — than what you have to offer, and whether you are freely giving of whatever that is. Because experiencing a feeling (i.e., feeling thankful for __________ ) is not the same thing as demonstrating the thankfulness you feel.

If that makes sense.

And as for goodwill toward men…

I think the world – myself definitely included – has a long way to go toward actualizing that one. Because true Good Will means recognizing the humanity and imperfections of others… Which – to be able to do that – is something that requires reaching out from a place of self-acceptance, from a place of peace. Of understanding.

And the things that are closest to people’s sense of morality, that are so personal/ized as to be inseparable as idea{l}s from a person’s individual identity — things like politics and sexuality and religion and economics, the things people torture one another and go to war over — are the things we have to overcome, first within ourselves, to reach that level of acceptance and understanding with anyone else.

~ FIN ~